Today.

Today I shouted at Attila again.

This time, it happened in her Child Care. I pick lulu and Max at 4.30pm today.
It was kind of rush for me. I came from MOS, need to pick them home and go for RC meeting at 7.30pm.

At the school, I told my kids to wear their shoes and I needed to rush home. Max picked up his shoe and wore. Attila picked up her shoe and walked to me, she said, "PaPa can wear for me." Her teachers were there at the door where they were wearing their shoes. In order not to show the teachers that I may spoil her, I ask her... "How old are you now. If your brother Max can wear his shoe, you can also do it yourself right."

Her face changed... she started crying... At that moment, my blood boiled suddenly...I raise my voice and ask her to wear her shoe and stop crying...It did not make the matter better..."She shouted back.. I want PaPa to wear for me...."

I took her shoe and went out of the school, she came after me.....I throw the pair of shoe into the school back dustbin...At the back door, the school Aunty was 'kind' to her. She picked the shoe for lulu and ask her to wear it herself again.

Lulu refuse... she wanted PaPa to wear for her still.

This time, I took the shoe and walk to my Van, "let go back now."

She came to the Van but..."I want MaMa to wear for me...."she said...

This pissed me off again... I took the shoe, went to the rubbish chute... Open the door....and throw it in... The place was very very dirty with lots of… cockroaches.. lots of them..

“I go and pick up the shoe myself ok.. wait for me PaPa.” Lulu said to me at the Van…She open the chute….. and run back… screaming… “PaPa, a lot of cockroaches… I dare not take my shoe.” She said while trying to caught her breath and regaining her shock…

She went home bare footed today....

Writing this now… make my heart hurts….

One late nite.

Yesterday, I had WEC meeting and need to work late at CC.

When I reached home at 11pm, I realised my 2 kids were not asleep yet. They were at the door, this make me very angry.

I shouted at Attila and Max. "GO TO BED NOW... Attila u got piano lesson tomorrow and GO TO BED NOW"

Reluctantly, Attila walked to the room. Max was still at the door....He was closed to tearing..
We only wanted to wait for PaPa to come back only....Tears started to drop... He was fighting back not to cry...I only wanted to hug hug PaPa before sleeping... He ran to his bed sobbing quietly.

My heart sunk... I had look too far ahead, not realising what I had miss out....
I miss out the lovely hugged from my kids..
I miss out the good night kiss from them.
Attila and Max, they stay up all night just to hug PaPa and wish him Good Night...
I could have hugged them… and tell them not to wait for me next time…

Oh no…I had misunderstood their intension… My kids only wanted that little of me……


My take away…

Everyday after a long day, going back home is the best thing on our mind.
Back at home, our family was waiting for us to come back safely….

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Are we very poor

One day, my daughter ask me this question, ' Papa, are we very poor'.

'Why do you asked?' Papa said.

Papa reply after come deep thoughts,' We have a 5 rooms house at Punggol, got a van to drive u around, have 2 yrs of saving in bank accounts, got some shares that give good $$ every year, has retirement $$ planed for when Papa and Mama reach 55 yrs old and have planned for the 3 kids university fee already. So... ok lah. not poor and not too rich lor'

She looks up and Papa face and ask again, ' How come u need to work so many hours'.

Papa downgraded his post after that.

Sometime, we forgot why we work so hard for...
If the reason for our long hours of working is for our family, providing them with all the neccessary and not being with them. Kind of only provided half of that. Think about it.

A small touching story mainly for professionals... Source unknown

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.
SON: 'Daddy, may I ask you a question?'
DAD: 'Yeah sure, what is it?' replied the man.
SON: 'Daddy, how much do you make an hour?'
DAD: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the man said angrily.
SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'
DAD: 'If you must know, I make Rs.100 an hour.'
SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.
SON: 'Daddy, may I please borrow Rs.50?'

The father was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior.'

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that Rs.50 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.

'Are you asleep, son?' He asked.

'No daddy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.

'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the man.

'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the Rs.50 you asked for.'

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you daddy!' He yelled.

Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the father grumbled.

'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.

'Daddy, I have Rs.100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time?

Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.'

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.


It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.

Do remember to share that Rs.100 worth of your time with someone you love.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days.

But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.

Who is fatter

Attila and Max on 10 Oct 07Yesterday, my sister-in-law (San San) asked Attila who is fatter, her 4th uncle-in-law (Amos) or her daddy, she became quiet.

Just a few minutes ago, Attila was on high gear in San San Toyota Altis, she was making lots of noise and playing with my other sister-in-law (Tua Pauy Yi, her 4th Aunty). It was about 12pm and we were on our way to my mother-in-law place from Chinatown. Her mum was asking her to take a nap but her high gear kept her from closing her eyes.

Just then, San San asked a simple question, 'Who is fatter, Uncle Amos or Pa Pa'; she pause for a few miuntes, suddenly the Altis was quiet, I could hear Max heavy breathing on my chest, we waited for her answer...

'So who is fatter, Amos or Pa Pa' ask Tua Pauy Yi this time. Attila was seating in front at the passenger seat with her.

Few minutes had passed before she moved her lips towards Tua Pauy Yi and whisper to her... 'Pa Pa is fatter'....

My take away:

Attila is able to identify what is sensitive to say already. She is turning 4 in Nov this year.
I was expecting her to speck out the answer and not whisper.

Ask her mum how come Attila behaves this way; we could not come out with an answer.
Already she is growing up. I want to pen this down before is all gone. ^^ The growing up process is just too fast lor.

5 Minute Management Course - Source unknown

Lesson 1:

A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor.
Before she! says a word, Bob says, "I'll give you $800 to drop that towel, "
After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob after a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 and leaves.
The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks, "Who was that?"
"It was Bob the next door neighbor," she replies.
"Great," the husband says, "did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?"

Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.

Lesson 2:
A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp. They rub it and a Genie comes out.
The Genie! says, "I'll give each of you just one wish."
"Me first! Me first!" says the admin clerk. "I want to be in the Bahamas, driving a speedboat, without a care in the world."
Puff! She's gone.
"Me next! Me next!" says the sales rep. "I want to be in Hawaii, relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life."
Puff! He's gone.
"OK, you're up," the Genie says to the manager.
The manager says, "I want those two back in the office after lunch."!

Moral of the story:
Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 3
An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing. A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing?"
The eagle answered: " Sure , why not."
So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested.
All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story:
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Lesson 4
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy."
"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrie! nts." !
The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.
He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the! tree.

Moral of the story:
Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.

Lesson 5
A little bird was flying south for the Winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him.
As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.
A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Morals of the story:
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.
(3) And when you're in deep shit, it's best to keep your mouth shut!

First Aid course

First Aid course at NACLI..

The trainer show us all the bloody photo..

Before the course, I will dare to help when someone in troble... after the course, got a cert... is a certify first aider now.. Suddenly become scare to 'chong' liao..

Kind of the more we know, the less knowlege we got.

Barney and our kids

After watching Barney Campfire, Attila and Max wanted me to fix up their tent for them. This was the nap on Sat 29 Sept 07.

Train - Any comment.

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